tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7056162936481787793.post4047672957553565536..comments2023-05-12T10:18:14.355+02:00Comments on Mariam Kobras: Love And Friendship And All That CrapMariam Kobrashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03538911373668958558noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7056162936481787793.post-19673910039237983382011-12-17T15:35:14.312+01:002011-12-17T15:35:14.312+01:00John, thank you for your comment! I've never h...John, thank you for your comment! I've never heard my writing being called "elegant" before, so of course I'm very charmed! This friendship thing is complicated. I've learned by now to expect less and be less moved when something like this happens.Mariam Kobrashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03538911373668958558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7056162936481787793.post-70934284032057474742011-12-17T15:29:12.746+01:002011-12-17T15:29:12.746+01:00Thanks for this post. I guess I've never been ...Thanks for this post. I guess I've never been successful enough for that to be a factor for me. But...I know that feeling from the other side, when someone you were close to, or felt you were, "takes off" and you wonder "Are they getting too big and too busy to bother with me?" <br /><br />Bearing in mind that I understand the difference, at least in theory, between perception and reality, I believe I have seen that happen. Not through any change in how that person thinks about me or our relationship specifically so much as them actually having more/different/pressing obligations than they did before. <br /><br />I guess I see this as being one facet of a bigger stone, that being the everything changes, and one of those things is our relationships with different people in our lives. <br /><br />I love how you worked your own heartfelt ponderings into your novel. I have f ound myself doing the same, though much less elegantly. Sometimes it helps to hear another speak our thoughts for us so we can get a grasp on what they are - even if we have to make up our speaker of mind.<br /><br />Thanks for this post, Mariam<br /><br />ps - I see you lining up rocks in a row, my family stacks them, nearly always five, and we're still trying to get down in words what that means. <br /><br />Also REALLY LOVE THE Eric Thompson cover for The Distant Shore, & his paintings in general. I find the ones without people in them stronger for me, which I'm sure says more about me than his work.John Ross Barneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05816733538316861849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7056162936481787793.post-68044238526131786872011-12-08T16:58:31.925+01:002011-12-08T16:58:31.925+01:00It's so sad when people turn out to not be the...It's so sad when people turn out to not be the friend you expect -- most of us can name one of those in our lives. I think many friendships tick on for years and sometimes it takes a life change to realise that one or other didn't stay invested in the friendship. <br />Real friends stick around, period. There's no two ways. They walk into your house, put the kettle on, and say hi to your family. They stick around no matter what -- success, failure, the works. And they can come from anywhere, any time. Gold dust.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7056162936481787793.post-16867582014325934072011-12-05T23:58:33.086+01:002011-12-05T23:58:33.086+01:00Hi Mariam
Paul and I occasionally talk about lost ...Hi Mariam<br />Paul and I occasionally talk about lost friends. Despite sending out our invitations, weeks become months, phone calls become texts, and catch-ups become Christmas cards!It's very sad but the world seems so chaotic at the moment and we're all running around protecting our own little existences. <br />The good thing is that true friends stay true, and new friends become close friends.<br />As they say, strangers are only friends we haven't met yet!<br />Love your dialogue hon!<br /><br />Ange xxxAngela Bartonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17221068291904611525noreply@blogger.com